We can’t avoid thunderbold…

Myriam, 22 years old, didn’t believe in thunderbold before she felt in love at first sight with her brother’s best friend.  She didn’t believe in physical attraction. She told us this “thunderbold” has changed her life… Let’s hear her love story with Carl.

herloste love blog 28 02 2016

Good morning, Myriam, can you talk about this thunderbold that you said, has changed your life ?

Good morning. Well, my heart was beating so fast the first time I met Carl, my brother’s best friend. He was so handsome, with his blue jacket. I was amazed and surprised that I had a physical attraction to him…I really didn’t know if he had the same feeling as mine but one thing was sure: I was attracted to him. My brother and him have known each other since their boyhood. Most of the time, my brother James brought him at home, but as I studied at the university, I was never at home and I have never seen him before. One day, I questionned my brother about Carl’ experiences in love. I asked him if he has a girlfriend or not and I finally told him I get a thunderbolt for Carl…He was very surprised and kept his silence for a moment…He even asked me if I was Joking. I answered that I really have a thunderbold the first time I met his best friend, Carl. But unfortunately, I have kept this secret in my heart for one year…

And what happened later ?

My brother didn’t know what to do. He didn’t invite Carl at home for a long time and he was surprised. Carl wanted to know what happened, if he was angry with him…He decided to tell my secret to his friend. They have talked too much about what I said. At this time, my brother became my best confident. When we had a conversation, he told me that Carl didn’t really show his feeling and was a little bit surprised.  But he asked my brother to give me his telephone number so that I can talk to him and tell him what I feel for him. I was ashamed, so  I sent him a message to tell him that everything my brother told him was not true at all.

What did he answer ?

He didn’t answer to me immediately. So I was very disappointed and I thought it was better to let him down. Later in the evening,  while I was having a bath, I had got a call. It was a great surprise to me to know that Carl was trying to join me. I couldn’t believe it!  He had really called me !

Tell us your conversation by telephone…

He apologized that he didn’t tell to my brother his feeling. He told me he was also attracted to me…He told me he was ashamed too because I am the sister of his best friend. I was very excited when I heard that. The following day, he invited me for a drink, to talk more and to share our feelings. I was dreaming of this day since 1 year!

How was your first rendez-vous ?

Exactly as I wish, exactly like in my dream! We have talked about why we didn’t want to show our feeling to each other, we laughed a lot and we were also very close to each other… I thought he was younger than me, I thought he has the same old as my broher. I was happy to know he was 22 years old, as me. He asked me to be his girlfriend.I said yes, of course! I will never forget this moment : the day, the month, the year and even the hour… It was may, 14th 2014 at 18.00: it was the moment when our love story has begun…

Your story is very interesting! What happened after you left that restaurant?

He drives me back home. We also had our first kiss, it was so exciting! I invited him at my home, but he didn’t want my brother to know that we were together. I knew at this moment that I was in love with him…I couldn’t look at his eyes…

How about your brother ?

Finally, he was aware of my relationship with Carl. Of course, he was surprised, but he respected my choice, that’s what I appreciate in him. He was not against our relationship. As Carl is his best friend, they are getting along together. He said he is very happy that Carl is my boyfriend because we three can know meet for every occasions. When I have a disagreement with Carl, my brother is so sad, he is embarrassing. He always helps us to solve our problems, he even give us some advices to make our relationship work. I am very proud of him!

How many years are you together now ?

We have been together since 2 years and 3 months now.

Did you fight very often with Carl? Tell us more about your bad moments in your relationship…

Of course, we had bad moments, like in every couple. He was already unfaithful to me. This hurt me so much. I couldn’t believe it at this time! Even if he apologized, I didn’t want to be with him anymore. We broke for a while during 2 months. I forgave him and now we’re still a couple. Our love has growing and we are now a happy couple.

How did you know he was unfaithful to you ?

One day, we went at a party. I have noticed that a girl had always looking at him. I was very jealous and I kissed him in front of everybody because as I had to leave the party, I wanted her to understand that Carl was my boyfriend. But my brother told me later that he was at a room with this girl and that they had kissed each other. My brother didn’t want to tell me the truth but he said that as I am his sister, he had a pity for me, even if Carl is his best friend. My world was crumbled down; I didn’t want to talk with Carl anymore. I didn’t eat, I didn’t sleep, I always cried…Carl always called me but I didn’t answer…

And what did you do?

My brother advised me to talk with him and to tell him what I had in my heart…That’s what I did…I told him that I knew he was unfaithful to me. I told him he broke my heart. I told him that the situation is very difficult for me because as he remained my brother’s best friend, I couldn’t prohibit him to go to our home. I asked him to choose between me and this girl. I read in his eyes that he still loved me. Forgiven him was not easy but I did it because I love him so much. He swore me he won’t be unfaithful to me anymore. He apologized and asked a second chance for our relationship. It was surprising because even if he broke my heart into pieces, I felt at this moment the feeling I had the very first time I met him. He asked me to marry me. I was still shocked and angry with him…I didn’t accept…I thought it was too early for me to be engaed with him, even if I loved him so much.

How did he react ?

He tried to convince me but I didn’t want to get married with him. He understood and he told me he is ready to wait to me…

Do you have a plan together ?

Well, we would like to work together, to create a project together because I study communications and he studies business management. We are complementary. When we work together, we never get some disagreements…We hope our professional project will be successful…

Tell us your best moments together ?

I would never forget our first valentine’s day. He invited me to a restaurant and he offers me a very nice necklace, with “I love you” engraved on it. I had this thunderbolt I felt when I first met him. He looked at my eyes and said to me: “Sweety, I love you so much and I can’t live without you, you are my life…”. This was the best time in my life, I couldn’t be as happier as at this moment because it was also our first time…

After the divorce, the joy of living …

We have the story of Cassandra, a woman who has just turned 40 years, made after a divorce with her ex-husband, she tells us about her love life with this separation.
After 20 years of life spent with Aubin, we became very good friends today like old time.We we parted on good terms and we always kept this friendship, love, without thinking to recover together .

In our heads were fixed and it is much better as his. He has remade his life with a woman younger than me and on my side I’m single but did not bother me more than her, because now I have more marital duty to respect that I was a woman faithful all these years. I feel revived, it’s a new life begins for me, I think I have all my time there a few days ago it was my birthday, I could enjoy with my friends in disco. youth has taken over and I felt so good, I forgot all my time of divorce, the woman I was..but as a young woman who started for the first time on a wild adventure. ..
Life is full of mysteries, his I do not doubt, after Aubin, I’m meeting women who were like me after the divorce, I needed this exchange to center to me that I could do the ideas out to new knowledge, I was able to discover the world behind a relationship that was over, some taken with taste in all areas, they were happier, rejuvenating sensation had its effect after breaking free of this influence of married woman.
If today my ex husband has handed in a relationship is that, he prefers the stable life, always given her love, I understand that I’m not cut out for her, not respect and love at first sight, it is more than her, I need to be released and granted life to the pink water, all somplement live day to day without thinking next day.